Aidan, Family, Fatherhood, Finley, Motherhood

Life Changes

To say my life has changed these past six weeks is an understatement. I have had to relearn how to care for a newborn, while chasing after a rambunctious toddler. As if that wasn’t enough of a challenge, add in Nathan starting his new job as a principal. While Nathan works a nine hour day, my day consists of about 20 diaper changes, 10-15 toddler tantrums, 8-12 feedings and lots of snuggles between the two boys. I have never felt so exhausted, yet so happy in my life. While this season has been filled with lots of changes and we have had to quickly adapt to them, our family continues to be blessed. In the span of one month our lives got a whole lot crazier.

We all seem to be handling the changes differently. Nathan as always, handles anything thrown his way with ease and grace. He is such a wonderful father to our boys and has been a big help to me around the house, despite working a new job. Aidan is 100% toddler. He goes from being extremely affectionate to his little brother, to wanting anything Finley is using. Aidan is definitely having to learn how to share toys and mommy and daddy’s attention. While it hasn’t been any easy adjustment for him, he is an amazing big brother to Finn and absolutely adores helping his “bubba.”

Out of everyone, I think I have had the hardest time adjusting to all the changes in our little family. Since I am a stay at home mom, I am with the boys 24/7. It has not been easy trying to balance raising a toddler and a newborn, while trying to keep the house running. I have had to change the expectations I have always set for myself. Rather than keeping an immaculate home and having a gourmet meal on the table, my focus is making lasting memories with my boys. I have also had to learn to be more patient with Aidan, as he adjusts to these changes as well. Each day has its own personal challenges, but I know God would not have given me anything I couldn’t handle.

While these changes haven’t been easy, they have been full of adventure and joy. Our family has truly been blessed these past six weeks. I am one lucky woman to have three such wonderful guys in my life. I cannot wait for Nathan and I to watch our two little boys grow up and see all the other changes God has planned for us!

Love and blessings,

Molly

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Aidan, Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood, Pregnancy

A Momma’s Struggle

While it might be the pregnancy hormones talking, I have become more emotional as my due date draws near. It has finally hit me that not only will Nathan and my life change forever, but our sweet Aidan’s too. His whole world is about to be knocked upside down. Going from being the only child to a big brother will be a huge adjustment for him. Aidan is going to have to share mommy and daddy’s attention, learn to be more patient by waiting his turn and learn to love this little brother who is about to invade his domain. As excited as I am to bring another little boy into our family, it makes me sad to think my one on one time with our bubba is almost over. It will never just be mommy and Aidan again. Finley isn’t even here and I am worried about Aidan feeling neglected or not loved. I am scared of Aidan resenting the new baby or even me, because he isn’t getting mommy’s full attention. I am saddened, because it has just dawned on me that my baby boy is growing up and is no longer my 6 Lb 6 oz little guy anymore. Changes have always been a struggle for me, but this change above all will be one of the hardest. I will always cherish the time Aidan and I have had, just the two of us. I look back on these 19 months of being a stay at home mom, and they have been the best months of my life. While we are all going to have to make adjustments when Finn arrives, I will strive to let Aidan know how special and loved he is. Our sweet boy stole my heart from the moment I laid eyes upon him and that will never change. I know these next few months will have both ups and downs as we become a family of four, but I am looking forward to seeing Aidan in action as a big brother. I know he will end up loving his baby brother with all his heart and they will become the best of friends. Until Finley makes his appearance, I plan on having some special outings with Aidan and making our last few weeks super special. If you have any suggestions on fun activities a very pregnant momma can do with a toddler, please comment below. I am going to end this post and sneak in his room for the second time tonight and watch him sleep!

Love and blessings,

Molly

Aidan, Fatherhood, Motherhood, Parenting

Toddlerhood

If I thought life had prepared me for raising a toddler, I was sorely mistaken. The bullying I faced in middle school, is nothing compared to the 18 month old bully who lives in my house. The sweet and smiling baby I used to rock to sleep has morphed into a tiny dictator. When he isn’t screaming to get his point across, he is throwing himself on the floor and flailing as if swarmed by bees. Aidan has taken up the bad habits of biting and head butting when he is mad. When you correct him and let him know his behavior is not appropriate, he laughs in your face. As a mom, I feel as if I am failing about 95% of the time. I’m aware this stage in Aidan’s development is perfectly normal, but I have so much self doubt whether or not my parenting is effective or not. I do not want to raise a child who thinks screaming and biting is the way to get what he wants. Nathan and I realize Aidan is still very young and that changes in his behavior will come with time, especially as he learns to communicate better. Each one of us is still learning how to handle situations, whether we are 18 months old or 27 years old. I am doing my best to remain patient and calm as I teach our child how to correctly respond to his emotions. Easier said than done, right? I think I would rather wrestle an alligator with my hands tied behind my back, than handle my son’s tantrums most days. Now to say my child misbehaves 24/7 would be a falsehood. He has good days and bad days. Most of the time he is a playful and loving child who wants to curl up in your lap to read or dance with you to the radio. Aidan is also very affectionate. He loves to give kisses and hugs, especially when he knows he has done wrong. Aidan participates in our daily prayers and loves to help with chores. He is learning at an alarming rate and as he grows his behavior will continue to improve. This season of challenges will pass. I just have to remember to be patient with him, as well as myself. Nathan and I are still trying to figure out this parenting thing. By the time Finley gets to this stage, hopefully we have some tricks up our sleeve. To all the parents struggling at any stage in your child’s life, remember it is all trial and error. As long as you are a part of their life and are making an effort to teach them right from wrong, you are not a failure. Sometimes we just need a reminder that we are doing a good job as a parent. I know I do!

Love and blessings,

Molly

Aidan, Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood, Parenting, Pregnancy

Changes

Wow, it has been a few months since I have been able to sit down and write a post. These past few months have been extremely busy. Ever since my son learned to walk, he has been getting into everything. (Just today, he figured out how to take the water filter out of the fridge. I didn’t even know where the filter was located!) These days, my life consists of breaking up fights between Aidan and the dog, rescuing my Tupperware from the trash can and kissing boo boos from random accidents. To say my life has changed these last 17 months is an understatement. This little fella keeps me on the tips of my toes at all times.

Aidan has changed so much in the last few months. He loves to talk, even if you don’t understand half of what he is saying. Aidan loves to play, explore and learn. We read about 15 books a day! (Sometimes the same book is read 4-5 times). He also loves to be involved in whatever mommy and daddy are doing. Whether it is emptying the dishwasher, building a fire or sweeping the floor, Aidan is always there to lend a helping hand. Though it makes the work go a lot slower and things have to be redone most of the time, it pleases me to see him wanting to help and be a part of our daily activities. As he continues to grow, Aidan’s personality has truly blossomed. Rarely does my child have a frown on his face, though he does have his mommy’s temper.

He is always finding new ways to make mommy and daddy laugh. We have had to watch ourselves lately, because he is mimicking everything we do. The other night, Nathan was being ornery while I cooked dinner and smacked my butt. Not two seconds later, Aidan comes up and does what his father just did. Nathan and I couldn’t stop laughing. We absolutely adore this little boy and are enjoying all the changes that come with him growing up. Aidan is about to embark on one of the biggest changes of all, brotherhood. In just a few months, our lives will be even crazier. The Wilkerson family will be welcoming another baby boy into our lives.

Nathan and I are so excited for Aidan to be a big brother. He has already embraced the role, by giving my belly kisses and rubbing it when he sits with me. I’m looking forward to my two boys growing up together and hopefully becoming the best of friends. I feel so blessed that God has placed me in the role of mommy. I cannot wait to see what else he has in store for us in the months to come. I hope you all are enjoying the New Year and the changes that come with it!

Love and blessings,

Molly

Aidan, Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood

In the Blink of an Eye

How is it possible that my baby boy is a one year old already? It has been 365 days of cuddles, kisses, watching him grow and falling more in love with him each day. This little boy has stolen my heart and I could not have asked God for a better blessing. This past year has been a year of many firsts. Nathan and I have watched our son learn to crawl, walk and talk. I don’t think I ever realized what true love really was, until I held my baby boy in my arms for the first time. Every day I watch our son grow into this wonderful little man. He has such an amazing personality. Aidan loves to laugh and make others giggle. He is a very social young man and is very inquisitive. Each day, I learn something new about my baby boy. In honor of his first birthday, I thought I would share 12 things I have learned about Aidan over the past year!

1) Since he was a newborn I have learned that my son loves to eat. More than most children. He will eat anything you put in front of him, except watermelon. He will spit it out and hand it back to you. This child is not picky at all and he loves loves loves chicken!

2) Aidan loves to share his toys and pacifier. He will even try and put his pacifier in my mouth. He has made it into a game of putting the outside part in my mouth and yanking it back out and sticking it in his. 

3) If he starts getting fussy, all we have to do is play videos of the chipmunks singing of sing the theme song to Remember the Titans. Usually, this will calm him down. It has been a life saver in the car on long road trips!

4) Aidan loves to close doors. To the point of shutting mommy in the closet when she is hanging up clothes. 

5) He is obsessed with bathrooms. Anytime the bathroom door is open, he will make his way in there in hopes that it is bath time. Also, he has discovered that the toilet seat can be lifted. Apparently hairbrushes and pacifiers are meant to be stored in the toilet. 

6) I have never seen someone get so excited as Aidan does, when you ask him if he wants to call GiGi and Papa or MiMi and Grandpa. He sure does love all of his grandparents. 

7) Our son is so inquisitive and very smart. (I know all parents say this) He loves to figure out how things works and has met all his milestones months ahead of time. 

8) Aidan loves to be scared. He laughs hysterically anytime you sneak up on him and yell boo. He also loves to play peekaboo, especially with our dog Storm. 

9) While he does not watch a lot of Tv, he enjoys the shows Arthur and The Cat and the Hat. He usually will watch the theme song and then go off and start playing with his toys. 

10) Taking after mommy, Aidan is extremely ticklish. His most ticklish spots are when you kiss his neck, tickle his ribs and toes.

11) Aidan loves to be outside. He could spend all day playing in the grass and dirt. He gets upset when it is time to go inside, unless it is bathtime! 

12) Aidan Quinn is a complete daddy’s boy! Everything daddy does is extremely funny. If mommy tries to do it, we give her an unamused look. Daddy is usually the one who can get him back to sleep in the middle of the night. The bond between these two is so strong and absolutely beautiful! 

While this past year has flown by, it has been the greatest year of my life. Nathan and I were given such a sweet and loving little boy. Watching him grow physically, socially and emotionally this past year has been such a blessing. I pray that time slows down and my baby boy stops growing up so fast. While I know that isn’t possible, I plan on cherishing this past year and all the years to come. I cannot wait to see who my baby boy grows up to be! This past weekend we celebrated our sweet boy with all those who have made an impact on him. We had such a blast watching him open presents and eat cake. Nathan and I want to thank our families for all the support and advice they have given to us over this past year as we learned the ropes of parenthood.

 Most importantly, thank you for loving this little man and always being there for him!


Happy First Birthday Aidan Quinn!!! Mommy and daddy love you to the moon and back!