Aidan, Fatherhood, Motherhood, Parenting

Child Resilience and Mommy Guilt

Let me tell you about my brave little man. Aidan is the most resilient child I know. When he falls down, he picks himself up and tries again. Aidan is almost 10 months old and has never had a serious injury, despite all the mischief he has gotten into. This all changed yesterday. 

Nathan, Aidan and I went to the library to check out some new children’s books. In the children’s section, they have a play area filled with toys, puzzles, pillows, legos and more. While I was picking out books, Nathan and Aidan were playing with all of the toys. I soon joined them and we played with Aidan for a few minutes, before he took off to play independently. Let me tell you, this child of ours loves to play and keep busy. He goes from one toy to the next. 

Aidan crawled over to a table with lots of little toys attached to it. Nathan and I sat on the couch and watched him play. He was giggling and talking to himself as he explored. While he played and we watched, Nathan and I started up a conversation on expanding our family. We were in a deep discussion when Aidan turned towards us and tried to take a step. When he took that step he fell into the table and hit his mouth on the way down. I have never heard my baby boy scream so loud. We rushed over to him and I picked him up. It wasn’t until he was in my arms that he opened his mouth and all this blood started pouring out. My sweet baby boy had busted his lip when he fell. 

Aidan cried for a few minutes and then calmed down as we took him into the bathroom to clean him up. Luckily, all four of his teeth were fine and he hadn’t bitten his tongue. His poor lip was swollen and both of us were covered in his blood. After we cleaned him up, I took him out to the car while Nathan gathered our books. 

While we were sitting in the car and Aidan was playing in his seat, an immense wave of guilt washed over me. I could have prevented my son from getting hurt, if I had been paying better attention to him. I shouldn’t have been talking, instead I should have been next to the table and playing with our son. How can I even consider having another child, when my son is getting hurt right in front of me? I felt like the worst mom in the world. As I wallowed in my guilt, Aidan looked up at me and patted my face and smiled. This little boy had just had a traumatic experience and here he was smiling and loving on me. 

Nathan returned to the car and saw my face. He knew right away that I was feeling guilty for Aidan’s accident. Nathan looked at me and said, “this is not the last time our son is going to get hurt and if this is the worst that happens to him, we should consider ourselves lucky.” He made me realize that I cannot be one of those parents who hovers over their child 24/7. Our children are going to get hurt on occasion and this accident was no ones fault. 

Aidan has already forgotten about the incident and has been his happy self since. He is very resilient like his father. It was very difficult to watch my son get hurt, but I am slowly realizing that as he is learning to walk and explore this won’t be the last time he gets hurt. While I still feel guilty for my son getting hurt, I know it is not because I am a bad mom. Accidents happen all the time with our children, we just have to continue to teach them to pick themselves up and try again. I have also realized, I am going to make mistakes as a parent, but like my child I need to learn to be resilient and forgiving of myself. 

Molly

Aidan, Creating Memories, Reading

Aidan’s June Book Review

Each day Aidan and I read about four or five books. I always look forward to our reading time together. Lately, we have been on an animal book kick. Aidan loves when I make each animal sound. He does his best to imitate me, but usually they end up sounding like DaDa or high pitched squeals.  I thought I would choose three of the animal books we have read this month, and review them. 

The first two books are part of Aidan’s own book collection. They are Giraffes Can’t Dance by Giles Andreae and Little Blue Truck, by Alice Schertle. 


Giraffes Can’t Dance is about a giraffe named Gerald who wants to dance at the annual Jungle dance. All of the other animals are graceful and very talented, except Gerald. With his long legs and wobbly knees, he is quite clumsy. When the other animals mock him, Gerald goes off and learns to dance on his own with the help of an inspirational friend and the moon music. Aidan loved looking at the bright illustrations of this book and followed along to the rhyming story. This is a book we will read over and over again. 

Little Blue Truck is a book about helping others and making new friends. Blue, an old pickup truck gets stuck in the mud when he is helping push a grumpy dump truck out of the mud. When Blue gets stuck, a group of farm animals he befriended along the way, gather together to help both trucks get unstuck. This book is a favorite of Aidan’s, because he recognizes certain farm animals from his GiGi and PaPa’s farm. Whenever he sees a cow or a cat, he gets very excited and tried to pet the picture. Aidan loves anything to do with animals and trucks, so this book was a perfect read. 

The final animal book I have chosen is called, There Might Be Lobsters, by Carolyn Crimi. I absolutely adored this book and will have to buy it for our own library. Aidan’s GiGi was the one who picked this book out, when we visited the public library together. 


There Might Be Lobsters, is a book about a little dog named Sukie who has a lot of anxiety when it comes to the beach. Instead of enjoying the sand and water with her owner Eleanor, she sits back on a towel in fear of a stray beach ball or lobster. When her stuffed monkey Chunka Munka is in danger, she puts all her fears behind her and realizes the beach isn’t so scary after all. This book is full of charming illustrations and is a fun read aloud for all ages. 

I love that Aidan enjoys looking at books just as much as I enjoy reading them to him. It is always such a pleasure when we find a book we both adore. These three books can be treasured by all ages. If you have a favorite animal book, please comment below. I am always looking for new book ideas for Aidan. 

Happy Reading,

Molly

Aidan, Christianity, Felicity Marie, Loss, Motherhood, Pregnancy

Mother’s Day

I remember as a child, I couldn’t wait to celebrate Mother’s Day. I had it all planned out in my head. The day would start with my husband and kids bringing me breakfast in bed, flowers would be delivered that afternoon, and I wouldn’t have to cook or clean at all that day. I never imagined that instead of looking forward to this special day, I would be dreading it. For many women, including myself, this day is a reminder of what we have lost. Two years ago I was suppose to be celebrating my first Mother’s Day, as I was newly pregnant. Instead, I spent that day holed up in my room crying, because my husband and I knew we would never bring our child home from the hospital. My second Mother’s Day, I was pregnant with our son Aidan. While I was very blessed to be carrying a healthy child, I felt as if I could not celebrate that year, because of our previous loss. How was I suppose to celebrate a day all about motherhood, when it was taken from me the year before? This year will be my third Mother’s Day, but first celebrating with our son. While it will be an emotional day as I remember our sweet girl, I will cherish every moment I get to spend with her brother. Even though I wish I could wake up Sunday morning to both my children’s smiling faces, I know Felicity will be watching over me. Two years ago, she made me a mommy. While I do not have her in my arms, I cherish the time I carried her inside of me. Mother’s Day isn’t about the gifts or day off from chores, it is celebrating the role God blessed me with. While one of my children is not here on Earth with me, I would not have become a mother without her being placed in my life, as short as it was. While I plan on celebrating with Aidan, a part of me will be grieving for my daughter. Though Mother’s Day will be an emotional reminder of what I have lost, it is also a day for me to celebrate my little boy who looks up at me in adoration. I am a mom to two children, Felicity and Aidan. I love both of my sweet babies and am so lucky to be their mommy. This role given to me by our Father above, is the greatest calling he could ever ask of me. While I am very thankful, I ask for you to take a moment and pray for all the women in the world who have lost a child and those not able to conceive. Sunday will not be an easy day for us.

Many blessings and love,

Molly

Aidan, Arts and Crafts, Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood

Tie Dye With The Tyke 

As summer draws near, Aidan is in need of some new play clothes. My child is growing like a weed! I decided to buy some cheap, white onesies I wouldn’t mind him getting dirty or torn up. I bought a three pack from Walmart for $6.79. 

Rather than leaving them a boring white color, I found a recipe on Pinterest to make my own tie dye. Since these outfits would be worn by the little man, he of course had to help dye them. In fact, we made it a family affair. First I took all three onesies and soaked them for thirty minutes in a bowl of 1 cup water and 1 cup vinegar. 

After they finished soaking, I wrung them out and twisted them into different designs and tied them with twine. I didn’t have any rubber bands so I used what I had on hand. I then took a muffin tin and filled it with water. Using food coloring I picked up for $2 at Walmart, I placed five drops of each color in the tin cups and mixed with a spoon. I mixed red and yellow to get an orange dye and blue and red to make a purple dye. 

I also covered my counter in a trash bag to prevent stains. After the colors were mixed it was time to start tie dying. We let Aidan go first. We tried to get him to dip the onesie in the colors, but he ended up throwing it at them instead. For the parts he wasn’t able to dip himself, we had him point to the color he wanted us to use and I dipped it for him. 


Nathan and I each designed a onesie as well. This was the first time Nathan has ever tie dyed anything. It was a fun experience to share with both my guys. After all the onesies were dyed, we placed them in ziplock bags. 


We let them sit overnight and then I washed them in cold water with 1/2 cup of salt. The salt is suppose to help the dye to set. After rinsing them under cold water and ringing them out, I let them air dry. I plan on washing them in the washing machine separately on cold, before Aidan wears them. Unfortunately after rinsing them, all the blues and greens washed out of the onesies. Now Aidan has three different style red onesies. With every new activity I try, there is always trial and error. Next time I will have to attempt something different, so some of the colors don’t rinse out. 

This activity was cheap and fun to do. By using food coloring I was able to let Aidan mess with the dye, without worrying about him swallowing anything dangerous. I absolutely love doing fun activities with my family. It not only creates lasting memories, but allows us to spend time together. Plus, Aidan now has three new outfits! If you try out this activity, let me know how it goes in the comments below. I would love to see pictures of your designs. 

Happy crafting, 

Molly

Aidan, Creating Memories, Fatherhood, Motherhood, Parenting

Finding Balance 

Over the past two weeks my son has learned to crawl and pull himself up using furniture. This of course means he is exploring every nook and cranny in our house. I love that he is so inquisitive and wants to learn. I do not love all the bumps and bruises he gets as he does so. As a new mom, I am trying to find a balance between being too over protective and allowing my child to be independent. I do not want to become one of those helicopter moms, but I also don’t want my son to get hurt. Does this mean I allow him to roam the house alone? Absolutely not. It means, I watch him as he explores and plays independently, because I want him to learn how to problem solve and recognize cause and effect. While I have thought about getting him a helmet and bubble wrapping the furniture, I have decided to go a different route. Rather than child proofing my house, I am going to child proof Aidan. While I still have outlet plugs and cabinet locks, I am not going to put away my pretties. Even at 8 months old he understands when he is doing something he shouldn’t be. My husband and I are teaching him early on, what he can and cannot play with. I do not want him growing up feeling like he is living in a museum. Even from an early age, Aidan has shown interest in how things around the house work. I do not want to take that desire to learn and explore away from him. While we will not allow him to get into any dangerous situations, by giving him independence at this age we are helping nurture his love of exploration and adventure. I hope as he grows older, this thirst for knowledge evolves. Nathan and I look forward to joining Aidan on all his adventures. One is never too old to explore and learn!

Molly