Health, Marriage, Motherhood

Self Care

From the moment you become a parent, your whole world changes. It isn’t all about you anymore. The focus is off you and now on your child. My son is almost a year old and it feels as if my life solely revolves around him. Sometimes to the point where I have neglected my physical, mental and emotional state. Over the past few months I have had to relearn how to take care of myself. For me, this means I have had to ask for help. If you know me personally, you understand how prideful I can be when it comes to asking for help. I have always wanted to appear as an independent young woman, who could carry her own weight in any situation. It wasn’t until I had Aidan and only getting a few hours of sleep, while also trying to keep up the household that I realized I couldn’t do it all on my own. I learned to lean more on my husband and stop trying to carry all the weight on my shoulders. This summer has presented many opportunities for me to rest and heal my mental and emotional state, while working on strengthening my physical state. On days Nathan is home with us, I am able to rely on him to watch Aidan while I take a nap. We came up with a system at the beginning of the summer where Nathan sleeps in, while I am up early with our son. I then get to take a long nap in the afternoon. These naps have allowed me to catch a few more hours of rest. When I am physically rested, my mental and emotional state is a lot healthier. I have also focused on taking time each day to get exercise. Through exercise I am producing endorphins which emotionally makes me happier, while also making me healthier. Besides getting more rest and exercise, I have learned how beneficial it is to take time for just myself. As adults, I feel it is very important for us to take a few hours a week just for ourselves. Whether it is spending an hour reading or drawing each day, or just walking through Walmart, having “Molly Time,” is something I need so I can mentally prepare for my roles as a mommy and wife. By neglecting my mental and emotional health, I know I cannot fulfill these roles to the best of my ability. I have had to learn over the past year the importance of self care and self love. As parents we need to take a step back from all the chaos of our lives and focus on ourselves once in a while. This does not mean we neglect our children or our responsibilities, but by doing so, we will be much happier and healthier human beings. By learning to love ourselves and take care of our mental, emotional and physical health, we can better care for our children and spouse! Remember your happiness and health is necessary and should always be a priority. 

Love and blessings, 

Molly

Husband, Marriage

Work in Progress

It seems like just yesterday my dad was walking me down the aisle towards my future husband. In August, Nathan and I will celebrate four years of marriage. The past four years have been filled with laughter and loss but most importantly, growth. Like all marriages, ours is far from perfect. 

Many times when a couple discusses their relationship, they leave out all the trials they have faced. They want so badly for others to see an idealistic marriage, because that is what is expected in this society. Let me tell you, marriage is far from perfect. Not only are you learning to share a space with someone who has different habits, you are combining two different upbringings. 

While Nathan and I were both raised with parents who shared similar values and morals, our family dynamics were completely different. Expectations in work ethic, how money was spent and where we lived are the biggest differences in how we were raised. These differences have caused disagreements in the past. Nathan and I have had to find a way to bring both dynamics together and form one that works for our little family. This hasn’t always been easy. 

We have also had to deal with outside forces who have tried to tear our marriage apart. People who are so unhappy themselves, they will use manipulation to make others around them the same way. This was a strain on our marriage, until we finally realized for our relationship to work, we had to put God first and then one another. Nathan and I have learned recently, we need to surround ourselves with others who boost our marriage, rather than try to bring it down. 

We have also had to learn how to communicate better with one another. This is not always an easy feat. As someone who suffers from depression and anxiety, I know I am not the easiest person to live with. I have mood swings and I struggle to find the positive in life. Nathan has found ways to bring me out of these moods, but has learned to give me space when I need it. I have had to learn how to express my feelings without yelling, and not get easily offended by how Nathan responds. 

Though our marriage has had its struggles, we have had so many wonderful moments over the past four years. A few of my favorites include: Nathan and I buying our first house, welcoming our sweet son Aidan into this world, and sharing in new hobbies together. Nathan makes me laugh every single day, he is so loving and gentle to our son and he is the hardest working man I have ever met. When God placed Nathan into my life, he presented me with a blessing that keeps on giving. I cannot imagine my world without this funny, generous, and sometimes annoying man. I thank you for these years together and I look forward to many more. 

In our marriage Nathan, I vow:

To look for the positive in life. 

To fix the sheets before you get into bed. 

To be a better communicator in our marriage. 

To learn new imitations. I know you are sick of the only two I can do. 

To not get annoyed over the simplest things. 

To make sure our freezer is always stocked with corn dogs and tater tots. 

To be a gentle and compassionate mother to our children. 

To always be honest with you, even if it isn’t the answer you want. 

To not eat your candy when you aren’t looking. (Try not promise)

To make you laugh everyday for the rest of your life. 

And Finally…

To work and fight for our marriage everyday for the rest of our lives. 

I know our marriage as all marriages, is a work in progress. I look forward to strengthening our bond and growing as a couple. I love you Nathan James! 

Cooking, Husband, Marriage

The Orange Chicken Disaster of 2013

Back in October of 2013, I decided to try a Pinterest recipe I found for orange chicken. Nathan and I had recently moved to Poplar Bluff and hadn’t found a Chinese restaurant we liked. As a newly married woman who loves to cook, I took it upon myself to make my favorite Chinese dish. What I didn’t know, was this dish would lead to the first and only time I cried over a meal. Nathan was coaching football at the time and didn’t get home till late. I had a few hours to prepare dinner and decided to try out this dish. Getting out my brand new crockpot and all the ingredients, I started following the directions one step at a time. It wasn’t until the dish was finished cooking, that I realized I had messed up two important steps. First, the crockpot was suppose to be set to low, I had it on high. (New crockpot, never used before. My excuse and I am sticking to it!) Second, the recipe called for 8 oz of frozen orange concentrate and I poured in the entire container. All 16 oz worth! Needless to say, the dish ended up being scorched and the orange flavoring was very, very strong. Still thinking this meal would be the best Chinese food we had ever eaten, I served it to Nathan. If you know my husband, within the first two minutes of eating anything someone has made, he compliments the meal. We were going on five minutes and he hadn’t said anything to me. The dinner was disgusting and I knew he agreed, but he wouldn’t say it out loud. I tried to get him to acknowledge how terrible it was, but as the kind husband he is, he lied to protect my feelings. Of course, that made it worse. I didn’t want him to force himself to eat something that was so disgusting. I picked up both our plates and threw our dinner in the trash and stormed outside. As I went on a walk to calm down, I called my mom and was crying on the phone to her. She was able to help me see the humor in this disastrous dinner and I returned to the house. When I walked in, Nathan was sitting and eating a bowl of cereal. He stopped mid bite and gave me an “oh busted” face. I went into our room and started crying again. I felt so embarrassed and ashamed. Nathan grew up getting these amazing home cooked meals from his mom, and I wanted to do the same for him as his wife. I felt like I had failed him. His dinner ended up being Froot Loops, major fail! He came in to our room, held me and let me cry about my failure at Chinese cuisine. It has now been almost four years and every time I try a new recipe, Nathan likes to tell the story of the Orange Chicken Disaster of 2013. Looking back, the situation is pretty hysterical. Here I am trying to be Betty Homemaker and serve my husband a great dish, and instead of him being honest with me, he eats the scorched mess. Luckily, we are able to look back on this memory and laugh about it. Though, Nathan has made me promise to never attempt another orange chicken recipe again. I have learned a few lessons since that disastrous meal. The first lesson, always read directions carefully. The second and most important lesson, don’t be so hard on yourself. We all make mistakes. As long as you learn from those mistakes, you continue to better yourself! 

Love, 

Molly

P.S. We are going out for Chinese food this weekend. Nathan doesn’t know it yet! 

Fatherhood, Husband, Marriage

Sacrifices 

If you know my husband, you know Nathan is one of the most hardworking men you will ever meet. Whether it is work, college courses or helping out on the farm, he gives 100% every time. He is also the most selfless man I know. His family will always come before himself. Nathan is currently working two jobs, so that I can stay at home with our son. That means his work day starts at 7:30 am and sometimes does not end until 6:30 pm. Most weekends he takes on odd jobs for extra money or is cutting wood to keep our family warm. Not only is this man working two jobs, he is finishing his Masters in Administration. Nathan carries a full load on his shoulders, all for the sake of bettering the lives of our family. He does not complain about how exhausted he is or make excuses to avoid helping me out around the house. No matter how tired he is in the evenings, he always makes time for myself and our son. His love for Aidan is so fierce and strong. 


He makes many sacrifices, so we can live comfortable lives and never go without. I feel so blessed to have married a man that loves unconditionally and will always be there for our family. We are so proud of all he has accomplished and so excited for what his future will hold. 


Sometimes we forget to simply say thank you for all that our significant others do for us. While Nathan and I are not perfect and we both make mistakes in our marriage, we do our best to show appreciation for all the other one does. This post is for you babe! Thank you for being such an amazing husband and father. Thank you for the sacrifices you have made and the dreams you have put on hold. Thank you for always putting us first. Aidan and I can not imagine a world without you in it. We love you to the moon and back! Enjoy a couple hours of playing Xbox, you deserve it!

Aidan, Marriage, Motherhood

Valentine’s Day 

Friends and family always ask me what Nathan and I do to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Every year we have the same tradition. We either cook a meal together or order in, and watch a movie. This year was extra special, because we celebrated with our baby boy. 

Due to Valentine’s landing on a weekday this year, we celebrated this past weekend. Nathan ordered and picked up dinner and we chose the movie Moana. New favorite Disney movie! This movie is all about the celebration of family and finding your roots. It also happens to have a strong, female role model. Nathan was the one to suggest the movie and he did an excellent job. Aidan loved watching and listening to the music. He danced and giggled as he watched. 


As much as I enjoy going out to dinner or to the movies, a night in with my two guys was the best gift I received this Valentine’s Day. For me, this day isn’t about candy and flowers. (Don’t get me wrong, never in my life have I turned down a box of candy or two). Does my husband know me well or does he know me well???


 This day is about celebrating the love of those who show you they care about you on a daily basis. I hope you all had a memorable day. Remember to cherish and love one another each day of the year! Most importantly, hurry to Walmart tomorrow, because Valentine’s candy is 50% off!!!

Love, 

Molly