Aidan, Fatherhood, Motherhood, Parenting

Toddlerhood

If I thought life had prepared me for raising a toddler, I was sorely mistaken. The bullying I faced in middle school, is nothing compared to the 18 month old bully who lives in my house. The sweet and smiling baby I used to rock to sleep has morphed into a tiny dictator. When he isn’t screaming to get his point across, he is throwing himself on the floor and flailing as if swarmed by bees. Aidan has taken up the bad habits of biting and head butting when he is mad. When you correct him and let him know his behavior is not appropriate, he laughs in your face. As a mom, I feel as if I am failing about 95% of the time. I’m aware this stage in Aidan’s development is perfectly normal, but I have so much self doubt whether or not my parenting is effective or not. I do not want to raise a child who thinks screaming and biting is the way to get what he wants. Nathan and I realize Aidan is still very young and that changes in his behavior will come with time, especially as he learns to communicate better. Each one of us is still learning how to handle situations, whether we are 18 months old or 27 years old. I am doing my best to remain patient and calm as I teach our child how to correctly respond to his emotions. Easier said than done, right? I think I would rather wrestle an alligator with my hands tied behind my back, than handle my son’s tantrums most days. Now to say my child misbehaves 24/7 would be a falsehood. He has good days and bad days. Most of the time he is a playful and loving child who wants to curl up in your lap to read or dance with you to the radio. Aidan is also very affectionate. He loves to give kisses and hugs, especially when he knows he has done wrong. Aidan participates in our daily prayers and loves to help with chores. He is learning at an alarming rate and as he grows his behavior will continue to improve. This season of challenges will pass. I just have to remember to be patient with him, as well as myself. Nathan and I are still trying to figure out this parenting thing. By the time Finley gets to this stage, hopefully we have some tricks up our sleeve. To all the parents struggling at any stage in your child’s life, remember it is all trial and error. As long as you are a part of their life and are making an effort to teach them right from wrong, you are not a failure. Sometimes we just need a reminder that we are doing a good job as a parent. I know I do!

Love and blessings,

Molly

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Changes

Wow, it has been a few months since I have been able to sit down and write a post. These past few months have been extremely busy. Ever since my son learned to walk, he has been getting into everything. (Just today, he figured out how to take the water filter out of the fridge. I didn’t even know where the filter was located!) These days, my life consists of breaking up fights between Aidan and the dog, rescuing my Tupperware from the trash can and kissing boo boos from random accidents. To say my life has changed these last 17 months is an understatement. This little fella keeps me on the tips of my toes at all times.

Aidan has changed so much in the last few months. He loves to talk, even if you don’t understand half of what he is saying. Aidan loves to play, explore and learn. We read about 15 books a day! (Sometimes the same book is read 4-5 times). He also loves to be involved in whatever mommy and daddy are doing. Whether it is emptying the dishwasher, building a fire or sweeping the floor, Aidan is always there to lend a helping hand. Though it makes the work go a lot slower and things have to be redone most of the time, it pleases me to see him wanting to help and be a part of our daily activities. As he continues to grow, Aidan’s personality has truly blossomed. Rarely does my child have a frown on his face, though he does have his mommy’s temper.

He is always finding new ways to make mommy and daddy laugh. We have had to watch ourselves lately, because he is mimicking everything we do. The other night, Nathan was being ornery while I cooked dinner and smacked my butt. Not two seconds later, Aidan comes up and does what his father just did. Nathan and I couldn’t stop laughing. We absolutely adore this little boy and are enjoying all the changes that come with him growing up. Aidan is about to embark on one of the biggest changes of all, brotherhood. In just a few months, our lives will be even crazier. The Wilkerson family will be welcoming another baby boy into our lives.

Nathan and I are so excited for Aidan to be a big brother. He has already embraced the role, by giving my belly kisses and rubbing it when he sits with me. I’m looking forward to my two boys growing up together and hopefully becoming the best of friends. I feel so blessed that God has placed me in the role of mommy. I cannot wait to see what else he has in store for us in the months to come. I hope you all are enjoying the New Year and the changes that come with it!

Love and blessings,

Molly

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You Know You’re a Parent of Littles When…

1) Going to the restroom is a family affair. 

2) You change outfits just as many times as your child does. Especially when you are used as a napkin. 

3) Lullabies are constantly stuck in your head. In fact, you find yourself humming them when you are alone. 

4) Your child eats better than you do. Did they share that four course meal you prepared??? NOPE!

5) You go out shopping for an outfit for yourself and end up buying three new outfits for your child instead. 

6) Your child is better dressed than you are. (See #5)

7) Your child’s name and the dog’s name is interchangeable. 

8) You sing along to the theme songs of every kid’s show, even when the show is not on. 

9) Your reflexes have improved. No child of yours is getting hurt on your watch!

10) Naptime is your favorite part of the day, because it means you can sneak in a snooze or eat the last brownie without anyone seeing. 

11) You use your child as an excuse to get out of going places. “I think Aidan is coming down with a stomach bug.” When really you just want to be in bed by 8 PM. 

12) Trying to wipe your child’s snotty nose is harder than your freshman year of college. 

13) You don’t ever get to finish your own snack or meal. Heck you maybe get three bites of you are lucky. 

14) It has become a daily chore to check the trash can for missing toys and household items. 

Finally…

15) It takes you two months to write a blog post. Who has time for hobbies??? I sure don’t!

Hope you enjoyed! My child is currently demanding more marshmallows. He is such a food dictator!

Love, 

Molly

Aidan, Fatherhood, Motherhood, Parenting

Child Resilience and Mommy Guilt

Let me tell you about my brave little man. Aidan is the most resilient child I know. When he falls down, he picks himself up and tries again. Aidan is almost 10 months old and has never had a serious injury, despite all the mischief he has gotten into. This all changed yesterday. 

Nathan, Aidan and I went to the library to check out some new children’s books. In the children’s section, they have a play area filled with toys, puzzles, pillows, legos and more. While I was picking out books, Nathan and Aidan were playing with all of the toys. I soon joined them and we played with Aidan for a few minutes, before he took off to play independently. Let me tell you, this child of ours loves to play and keep busy. He goes from one toy to the next. 

Aidan crawled over to a table with lots of little toys attached to it. Nathan and I sat on the couch and watched him play. He was giggling and talking to himself as he explored. While he played and we watched, Nathan and I started up a conversation on expanding our family. We were in a deep discussion when Aidan turned towards us and tried to take a step. When he took that step he fell into the table and hit his mouth on the way down. I have never heard my baby boy scream so loud. We rushed over to him and I picked him up. It wasn’t until he was in my arms that he opened his mouth and all this blood started pouring out. My sweet baby boy had busted his lip when he fell. 

Aidan cried for a few minutes and then calmed down as we took him into the bathroom to clean him up. Luckily, all four of his teeth were fine and he hadn’t bitten his tongue. His poor lip was swollen and both of us were covered in his blood. After we cleaned him up, I took him out to the car while Nathan gathered our books. 

While we were sitting in the car and Aidan was playing in his seat, an immense wave of guilt washed over me. I could have prevented my son from getting hurt, if I had been paying better attention to him. I shouldn’t have been talking, instead I should have been next to the table and playing with our son. How can I even consider having another child, when my son is getting hurt right in front of me? I felt like the worst mom in the world. As I wallowed in my guilt, Aidan looked up at me and patted my face and smiled. This little boy had just had a traumatic experience and here he was smiling and loving on me. 

Nathan returned to the car and saw my face. He knew right away that I was feeling guilty for Aidan’s accident. Nathan looked at me and said, “this is not the last time our son is going to get hurt and if this is the worst that happens to him, we should consider ourselves lucky.” He made me realize that I cannot be one of those parents who hovers over their child 24/7. Our children are going to get hurt on occasion and this accident was no ones fault. 

Aidan has already forgotten about the incident and has been his happy self since. He is very resilient like his father. It was very difficult to watch my son get hurt, but I am slowly realizing that as he is learning to walk and explore this won’t be the last time he gets hurt. While I still feel guilty for my son getting hurt, I know it is not because I am a bad mom. Accidents happen all the time with our children, we just have to continue to teach them to pick themselves up and try again. I have also realized, I am going to make mistakes as a parent, but like my child I need to learn to be resilient and forgiving of myself. 

Molly

Aidan, Creating Memories, Fatherhood, Motherhood, Parenting

Finding Balance 

Over the past two weeks my son has learned to crawl and pull himself up using furniture. This of course means he is exploring every nook and cranny in our house. I love that he is so inquisitive and wants to learn. I do not love all the bumps and bruises he gets as he does so. As a new mom, I am trying to find a balance between being too over protective and allowing my child to be independent. I do not want to become one of those helicopter moms, but I also don’t want my son to get hurt. Does this mean I allow him to roam the house alone? Absolutely not. It means, I watch him as he explores and plays independently, because I want him to learn how to problem solve and recognize cause and effect. While I have thought about getting him a helmet and bubble wrapping the furniture, I have decided to go a different route. Rather than child proofing my house, I am going to child proof Aidan. While I still have outlet plugs and cabinet locks, I am not going to put away my pretties. Even at 8 months old he understands when he is doing something he shouldn’t be. My husband and I are teaching him early on, what he can and cannot play with. I do not want him growing up feeling like he is living in a museum. Even from an early age, Aidan has shown interest in how things around the house work. I do not want to take that desire to learn and explore away from him. While we will not allow him to get into any dangerous situations, by giving him independence at this age we are helping nurture his love of exploration and adventure. I hope as he grows older, this thirst for knowledge evolves. Nathan and I look forward to joining Aidan on all his adventures. One is never too old to explore and learn!

Molly