Aidan, Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood, Pregnancy

A Momma’s Struggle

While it might be the pregnancy hormones talking, I have become more emotional as my due date draws near. It has finally hit me that not only will Nathan and my life change forever, but our sweet Aidan’s too. His whole world is about to be knocked upside down. Going from being the only child to a big brother will be a huge adjustment for him. Aidan is going to have to share mommy and daddy’s attention, learn to be more patient by waiting his turn and learn to love this little brother who is about to invade his domain. As excited as I am to bring another little boy into our family, it makes me sad to think my one on one time with our bubba is almost over. It will never just be mommy and Aidan again. Finley isn’t even here and I am worried about Aidan feeling neglected or not loved. I am scared of Aidan resenting the new baby or even me, because he isn’t getting mommy’s full attention. I am saddened, because it has just dawned on me that my baby boy is growing up and is no longer my 6 Lb 6 oz little guy anymore. Changes have always been a struggle for me, but this change above all will be one of the hardest. I will always cherish the time Aidan and I have had, just the two of us. I look back on these 19 months of being a stay at home mom, and they have been the best months of my life. While we are all going to have to make adjustments when Finn arrives, I will strive to let Aidan know how special and loved he is. Our sweet boy stole my heart from the moment I laid eyes upon him and that will never change. I know these next few months will have both ups and downs as we become a family of four, but I am looking forward to seeing Aidan in action as a big brother. I know he will end up loving his baby brother with all his heart and they will become the best of friends. Until Finley makes his appearance, I plan on having some special outings with Aidan and making our last few weeks super special. If you have any suggestions on fun activities a very pregnant momma can do with a toddler, please comment below. I am going to end this post and sneak in his room for the second time tonight and watch him sleep!

Love and blessings,

Molly

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Pregnancy Survival Kit

I am currently in my third trimester of pregnancy, and let me tell you I am definitely counting down the weeks till Mr. Finley arrives. While I feel very blessed God has given me another chance at motherhood; pregnancy and Molly Wilkerson do not mesh well! From the all day morning sickness both first and second trimester, to the daily aches and pains as my body grows, I am ready for baby boy to be here! Looking back these past (long) 31 weeks, I realized I would not have survived my pregnancy, without ten essential things. Here is my list of must haves to get through pregnancy!

1) Preggie Pop Drops! A friend sent me these in the mail during my pregnancy with Aidan. They were a life saver. For some reason, my babies make me super sick during the first twenty weeks of pregnancy. I am talking all day nausea and vomiting. These pops allowed me some relief. You can buy them in bulk on Amazon.com.

2) My second go to during pregnancy is Burt’s Bees Mama Bees Belly Butter. I absolutely adore the smell and the shea cocoa butter. It helps prevent stretch marks and soften your skin. I use this every morning after I shower. Buy a tub off Amazon as soon as you find out you are pregnant. The expense is worth it and your skin will never feel so soft again!

3) Since this is my third pregnancy, it is natural for my body to start dealing with aches and pains sooner than the first go around. I invested in the Babo Care Maternity Belly Band around 20 weeks, when my lower back and pelvic area started to ache. Lifting a twenty-five pound toddler doesn’t help! This band, along with daily yoga and stretching has brought me relief. I bought it on Amazon for around $20. (Can you tell I love Amazon) My OBGYN recommended buying this and I love it!

4) We all deal with cravings during pregnancy. Mine started when I got over my aversions to food and could actually keep more than a saltine down. Naturally, my cravings are for sweets. I have craved cookie cake, donuts and jelly beans during this pregnancy. While these are not healthy snacks, I allow myself to satisfy the craving every once in a while. I definitely do not believe in the “eating for two” statement and would like to avoid putting on 50 extra pounds. My go to healthier stash of snacks has been, fresh grapes, vanilla wafers and fruit smoothies. Definitely keep a snack on hand that satisfies your craving.

5) Another essential for surviving pregnancy is a nice selection of yoga pants or maternity leggings. I am lucky enough to be a SAHM, so these have become my everyday ware. When nothing fits and regular pants aren’t comfortable anymore, buy yourself some stretchy pants! My favorite maternity leggings are the Secret Fit leggings from Motherhood Maternity. While they are pricey, they are well worth it in the long run. They are comfortable and are made of great material. You definitely want to be comfortable during your pregnancy! Shout out to Dad and Debby for starting my addiction.

6) Every woman has heard the complaint from their baby doctor, “you aren’t drinking enough water!” I am not someone who can just keep chugging water. To satisfy my doctor and keep baby healthy, I will do it, but with a little help. A few weeks ago I bought the Fit and Active Water Enhancer from Aldi’s. Ever since I started adding it to my water, I noticed I was drinking more. It is zero calories and comes in different flavors. My toddler even likes it!

7) Like I said earlier, pregnancy comes with lots of aches and pains. I use Calgon Lavender and Vanilla Epsom Salt for a relaxing bath, after a long day of chasing a rambunctious little boy. You can find different scents and types at Walmart. I prefer lavender, because it helps me to fall asleep easier. Epsom salt is a great way to relax sore muscles. Now that I am in my third trimester, I take a lot more nightly baths using these salts. Tip: Have your phone nearby to play music or in my case, call your husband from the living room to help you out of the tub!

8) Speaking of husbands, put them to work. With all the back pain I have been fighting, I have needed a nightly back massage. Nathan has been great about massaging my back when I am really hurting. Put on your favorite show and have your man massage those achey muscles. Just be prepared for a little complaining when he has been massaging for more than ten minutes!

9) Pillows, pillows and more pillows are a must have during your second and third trimester. When you start getting that big old belly and it is hard to get comfortable, it helps to be surrounded by pillows. I currently sleep with five. Two pillows under my head, one between my knees and a pillow for my back and stomach. I have friends who have bought those huge pregnancy pillows to sleep with, but I am rather picky when it comes to pillows. I like a certain firmness for different placements. That’s why I end up with five pillows every night. The more pillows the happier the momma! (Never heard that saying? Well I just made it up. But it’s the truth!)

10) My last and the most important essential to surviving pregnancy is support. Pregnancy is a long journey with lots of ups and downs. Whether it is your first time carrying a baby or your fifth, it is not the easiest 9-10 months of your life. I know I would not be able to get through those long months and even after baby is born without the support and love from my family and friends. Just last week my wonderful in-laws took my son for the day so I could catch up on sleep and get over a nasty cold.

My dad and step-mom are always just a FaceTime call away to offer advice, send love and make me laugh.

Two of my girlfriends Kayli and Jessie are always sending me texts asking how I am feeling and how my appointments went. Finally, my rock and the biggest support is Nathan. He has been a comfort to me despite my raging hormones and complaints. (I have really low pain tolerance.) He takes care of our family despite his exhaustion from working two jobs. Without this amazing support group, I don’t know how I would handle bringing another child into this world. If you choose one item to survive pregnancy, let it be a great support group. They will always be there to help and shower you with love and kindness.

I hope you enjoyed this blog post and I hope you find comfort during your pregnancy. It is an amazing and life changing journey, despite the aches, pains and weight gain!

Love and blessings,

Molly

Aidan, Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood, Parenting, Pregnancy

Changes

Wow, it has been a few months since I have been able to sit down and write a post. These past few months have been extremely busy. Ever since my son learned to walk, he has been getting into everything. (Just today, he figured out how to take the water filter out of the fridge. I didn’t even know where the filter was located!) These days, my life consists of breaking up fights between Aidan and the dog, rescuing my Tupperware from the trash can and kissing boo boos from random accidents. To say my life has changed these last 17 months is an understatement. This little fella keeps me on the tips of my toes at all times.

Aidan has changed so much in the last few months. He loves to talk, even if you don’t understand half of what he is saying. Aidan loves to play, explore and learn. We read about 15 books a day! (Sometimes the same book is read 4-5 times). He also loves to be involved in whatever mommy and daddy are doing. Whether it is emptying the dishwasher, building a fire or sweeping the floor, Aidan is always there to lend a helping hand. Though it makes the work go a lot slower and things have to be redone most of the time, it pleases me to see him wanting to help and be a part of our daily activities. As he continues to grow, Aidan’s personality has truly blossomed. Rarely does my child have a frown on his face, though he does have his mommy’s temper.

He is always finding new ways to make mommy and daddy laugh. We have had to watch ourselves lately, because he is mimicking everything we do. The other night, Nathan was being ornery while I cooked dinner and smacked my butt. Not two seconds later, Aidan comes up and does what his father just did. Nathan and I couldn’t stop laughing. We absolutely adore this little boy and are enjoying all the changes that come with him growing up. Aidan is about to embark on one of the biggest changes of all, brotherhood. In just a few months, our lives will be even crazier. The Wilkerson family will be welcoming another baby boy into our lives.

Nathan and I are so excited for Aidan to be a big brother. He has already embraced the role, by giving my belly kisses and rubbing it when he sits with me. I’m looking forward to my two boys growing up together and hopefully becoming the best of friends. I feel so blessed that God has placed me in the role of mommy. I cannot wait to see what else he has in store for us in the months to come. I hope you all are enjoying the New Year and the changes that come with it!

Love and blessings,

Molly

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Mother’s Day

I remember as a child, I couldn’t wait to celebrate Mother’s Day. I had it all planned out in my head. The day would start with my husband and kids bringing me breakfast in bed, flowers would be delivered that afternoon, and I wouldn’t have to cook or clean at all that day. I never imagined that instead of looking forward to this special day, I would be dreading it. For many women, including myself, this day is a reminder of what we have lost. Two years ago I was suppose to be celebrating my first Mother’s Day, as I was newly pregnant. Instead, I spent that day holed up in my room crying, because my husband and I knew we would never bring our child home from the hospital. My second Mother’s Day, I was pregnant with our son Aidan. While I was very blessed to be carrying a healthy child, I felt as if I could not celebrate that year, because of our previous loss. How was I suppose to celebrate a day all about motherhood, when it was taken from me the year before? This year will be my third Mother’s Day, but first celebrating with our son. While it will be an emotional day as I remember our sweet girl, I will cherish every moment I get to spend with her brother. Even though I wish I could wake up Sunday morning to both my children’s smiling faces, I know Felicity will be watching over me. Two years ago, she made me a mommy. While I do not have her in my arms, I cherish the time I carried her inside of me. Mother’s Day isn’t about the gifts or day off from chores, it is celebrating the role God blessed me with. While one of my children is not here on Earth with me, I would not have become a mother without her being placed in my life, as short as it was. While I plan on celebrating with Aidan, a part of me will be grieving for my daughter. Though Mother’s Day will be an emotional reminder of what I have lost, it is also a day for me to celebrate my little boy who looks up at me in adoration. I am a mom to two children, Felicity and Aidan. I love both of my sweet babies and am so lucky to be their mommy. This role given to me by our Father above, is the greatest calling he could ever ask of me. While I am very thankful, I ask for you to take a moment and pray for all the women in the world who have lost a child and those not able to conceive. Sunday will not be an easy day for us.

Many blessings and love,

Molly

Aidan, Motherhood, Pregnancy

Aidan’s Birth Story

Early on, Nathan and I suspected I wouldn’t reach my due date of September 22nd, 2016. About two weeks before I went into labor with Aidan, I felt a lot of pelvic pressure and could tell he had dropped into position. A few days before Aidan made his appearance, I went to my weekly specialist’s appointment and found out I was already 3 cm dilated and 45% effaced. He made it clear I was not to do any traveling, because Aidan would arrive any day. Unfortunately this meant I had to miss my big sister’s wedding that Saturday. I ended up having really bad back labor the morning of September 4th and started contracting that night. Nathan and I waited until the contractions were about five minutes apart and drove the 50 minutes to the hospital. My biggest fear was going into labor and not having my epidural. God Bless women who do natural birth, I don’t do well with pain. We reached the hospital around 2:30 am and made our way up to labor and delivery. The nurse checked me and told me I was still 3 cm dilated, but was now 75% effaced. They were worried I was just having contractions due to dehydration. The nurse made me drink close to 100 ounces of water and walk the halls for an hour. If I were to dilate more, they would not send me home. After an hour they checked me again and I was at 3 & 1/2 cm. The nurses decided to hook me up to fluids and monitor me for another hour. Another hour passed and I was another cm dilated. Around 7 am we talked to the on call doctor and I was admitted into a delivery room. After calling all of our family members and letting them know Aidan would make his appearance on Labor Day (the irony), I was hooked up to an IV and received my epidural! (Yay!!!) Nathan and I spent the next few hours trying to rest, but the lady next door did not let that happen. She apparently decided to opt out of an epidural and we heard every agonizing moment. We couldn’t help but laugh when she screamed, “it’s stuck!” Around 10 am, I found out the doctor on call was my OBGYN. It was her first day back from her maternity leave. I felt so relieved to have my own doctor deliver Aidan. She had been with me from the start of this pregnancy, along with our specialist doctor and knew about our past loss. Our families made it to the hospital around 1 pm and at 2:00 they were asked to leave the room so I could start to push. The great thing about an epidural, if done right, you feel absolutely nothing. I had no idea when my water broke or when it was time to deliver, until my doctor checked me and said I was 10 cm and Aidan was coming. I was extremely blessed with an easy and pain free delivery. After five minutes of pushing, Bubba was born. 


Unfortunately, he entered into the world in a very dramatic way. Aidan’s umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck and he was not making any noise and struggling to breathe. He was placed on my chest long enough for his cord to be cut and then taken to the other side of the room. NICU nurses rushed in to spray oxygen in his face to get him to breathe. Nathan was over with the nurses checking on Aidan, while my nurses and doctor were taking care of me. Those 15 minutes felt like hours. We were so scared something was wrong. Finally, Aidan began to breathe normally and was returned to my arms. 


He never did scream or cry like other babies usually do. Holding our baby boy for the first time, was the most amazing feeling. I could not stop crying as I looked into his beautiful blue eyes. September 5th, 2016 is thus far the happiest day of our lives. Nathan and I are so blessed to have this sweet and loving little boy as our son. I could not ask for a better role, than mommy. Pregnancy after loss is never easy. It is filled with a constant fear, but when you are able to hold your healthy and precious baby in your arms, it makes those anxiety filled days worth it. Aidan is now 7 months old and I cannot believe how time has flown. Everyday with this little boy is a miracle. I cherish every smile, laugh and milestone he reaches. As much as I wish time would stand still, I cannot wait to see the man he grows up to become. Remember Aidan Quinn, “I’ll eat you up, I love you so!”