Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood, Parenting

You Know You’re a Parent of Littles When…

1) Going to the restroom is a family affair. 

2) You change outfits just as many times as your child does. Especially when you are used as a napkin. 

3) Lullabies are constantly stuck in your head. In fact, you find yourself humming them when you are alone. 

4) Your child eats better than you do. Did they share that four course meal you prepared??? NOPE!

5) You go out shopping for an outfit for yourself and end up buying three new outfits for your child instead. 

6) Your child is better dressed than you are. (See #5)

7) Your child’s name and the dog’s name is interchangeable. 

8) You sing along to the theme songs of every kid’s show, even when the show is not on. 

9) Your reflexes have improved. No child of yours is getting hurt on your watch!

10) Naptime is your favorite part of the day, because it means you can sneak in a snooze or eat the last brownie without anyone seeing. 

11) You use your child as an excuse to get out of going places. “I think Aidan is coming down with a stomach bug.” When really you just want to be in bed by 8 PM. 

12) Trying to wipe your child’s snotty nose is harder than your freshman year of college. 

13) You don’t ever get to finish your own snack or meal. Heck you maybe get three bites of you are lucky. 

14) It has become a daily chore to check the trash can for missing toys and household items. 

Finally…

15) It takes you two months to write a blog post. Who has time for hobbies??? I sure don’t!

Hope you enjoyed! My child is currently demanding more marshmallows. He is such a food dictator!

Love, 

Molly

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Health, Mental Illness

One Day at a Time

A few weeks ago, I was lucky enough to spend the day with one of my best friends. We spent the day shopping and gossiping. Over lunch we sat and discussed everything from marriage to motherhood. In between stories of our children, a more serious topic came up. That topic was depression, more specifically how those without depression struggle to understand those who suffer from it. I have suffered from depression and anxiety since I was eleven years old. As a child, I hid my mental state from those outside my family. There is such a negative stigma when it comes to those suffering from depression or an anxiety disorder. Most people assume that those who are sick can not live a normal life and are weak. This is not the case. Explaining depression to those uninformed can be so frustrating. Over the last fifteen years, I have heard comments such as, “depression isn’t real, it’s just you trying to get attention.” Or “if you want to be happy you just need to think happy thoughts, since it is all in the mind.” These statements are false. To explain depression to someone who does not have it, I want you to imagine you are swimming in the ocean and a huge wave comes out of nowhere and pushes you down to the bottom of the ocean. You are so disoriented that when you try to swim to the top, you are actually swimming farther down. It takes a lot of work on your part and help from others, to finally get back to shore. This is how depression works. For me, depression consists of anxiety, sadness, loneliness and exhaustion. While these symptoms do not completely go away for me, I find relief through certain lifestyle choices. These choices include: getting exercise and spending time outside each day, talking about my emotions with someone I trust and taking medicine for depression and anxiety. I have also learned overtime, that my depression is worse during stressful situations, such as my parents divorce and the loss of my daughter. While it is impossible to avoid situations such as these, I found finding support from family and friends was the best way to ease me out of my depressive episodes. Like everyone, I have my good days and I have my bad days. On my bad days, I might just be a little more withdrawn and emotional than what is normal for those without depression. Though it is not easy living with a mental disease, and I never know when a wave of sadness is going to hit, I try to take it one day at a time. I am blessed to have an amazing husband who is there for me through my good days and bad days. My recommendation is for anyone who suffers from depression to find a support system who will lift you up on those bad days, and those who don’t, to become that support system that others so desperately need!

Love and blessings, 

Molly

Aidan, Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood

In the Blink of an Eye

How is it possible that my baby boy is a one year old already? It has been 365 days of cuddles, kisses, watching him grow and falling more in love with him each day. This little boy has stolen my heart and I could not have asked God for a better blessing. This past year has been a year of many firsts. Nathan and I have watched our son learn to crawl, walk and talk. I don’t think I ever realized what true love really was, until I held my baby boy in my arms for the first time. Every day I watch our son grow into this wonderful little man. He has such an amazing personality. Aidan loves to laugh and make others giggle. He is a very social young man and is very inquisitive. Each day, I learn something new about my baby boy. In honor of his first birthday, I thought I would share 12 things I have learned about Aidan over the past year!

1) Since he was a newborn I have learned that my son loves to eat. More than most children. He will eat anything you put in front of him, except watermelon. He will spit it out and hand it back to you. This child is not picky at all and he loves loves loves chicken!

2) Aidan loves to share his toys and pacifier. He will even try and put his pacifier in my mouth. He has made it into a game of putting the outside part in my mouth and yanking it back out and sticking it in his. 

3) If he starts getting fussy, all we have to do is play videos of the chipmunks singing of sing the theme song to Remember the Titans. Usually, this will calm him down. It has been a life saver in the car on long road trips!

4) Aidan loves to close doors. To the point of shutting mommy in the closet when she is hanging up clothes. 

5) He is obsessed with bathrooms. Anytime the bathroom door is open, he will make his way in there in hopes that it is bath time. Also, he has discovered that the toilet seat can be lifted. Apparently hairbrushes and pacifiers are meant to be stored in the toilet. 

6) I have never seen someone get so excited as Aidan does, when you ask him if he wants to call GiGi and Papa or MiMi and Grandpa. He sure does love all of his grandparents. 

7) Our son is so inquisitive and very smart. (I know all parents say this) He loves to figure out how things works and has met all his milestones months ahead of time. 

8) Aidan loves to be scared. He laughs hysterically anytime you sneak up on him and yell boo. He also loves to play peekaboo, especially with our dog Storm. 

9) While he does not watch a lot of Tv, he enjoys the shows Arthur and The Cat and the Hat. He usually will watch the theme song and then go off and start playing with his toys. 

10) Taking after mommy, Aidan is extremely ticklish. His most ticklish spots are when you kiss his neck, tickle his ribs and toes.

11) Aidan loves to be outside. He could spend all day playing in the grass and dirt. He gets upset when it is time to go inside, unless it is bathtime! 

12) Aidan Quinn is a complete daddy’s boy! Everything daddy does is extremely funny. If mommy tries to do it, we give her an unamused look. Daddy is usually the one who can get him back to sleep in the middle of the night. The bond between these two is so strong and absolutely beautiful! 

While this past year has flown by, it has been the greatest year of my life. Nathan and I were given such a sweet and loving little boy. Watching him grow physically, socially and emotionally this past year has been such a blessing. I pray that time slows down and my baby boy stops growing up so fast. While I know that isn’t possible, I plan on cherishing this past year and all the years to come. I cannot wait to see who my baby boy grows up to be! This past weekend we celebrated our sweet boy with all those who have made an impact on him. We had such a blast watching him open presents and eat cake. Nathan and I want to thank our families for all the support and advice they have given to us over this past year as we learned the ropes of parenthood.

 Most importantly, thank you for loving this little man and always being there for him!


Happy First Birthday Aidan Quinn!!! Mommy and daddy love you to the moon and back!

Felicity Marie, Hope Mommy, Loss, Motherhood

Quick Decision

Imagine, your house is on fire. Your family and pets are safe and you have 30 seconds to grab one item and bring it with you to safety. What would it be? For some of you it might be a photo album, a wedding ring or if you are a teenager, your cell phone. The one item I would grab is my Felicity memory box. This box was given to Nathan and I the night we lost our daughter. Our nurses at Mercy hospital put together a box full of various items to remember our daughter. Each item allows us to cherish our memory of her. One item is a little booklet they made with pictures of her feet and hands within it. Another nurse crocheted a little pink hat and wrap for her. When I found out I was pregnant with Felicity, I began a journal for her to read when she was older. That journal along with her urn are nestled inside. As Nathan and I continue to cherish our daughter’s memory, when we see something that reminds us of her, we place it in inside her memory box. Out of everything I own, I would save my Felicity box in a heartbeat. I realize that I don’t need these objects to remember her, but each one has such special meaning to Nathan and I. When our son is older, I want to open this box and share these memories with him. I want Aidan to cherish his older sister’s memory as well. These little objects remind me of how lucky I am to be her mom and the chance I was given to carry her for as long as I did. As emotional as I get each time I open her box, I love having a little piece of her close by. I know I can always buy a new television or another pair of boots after a fire, but I will never be able to replace the precious items inside that box. So if I had 30 seconds to grab one item, it would be Felicity’s box. 

I would love to hear what you would grab from your house if you had 30 seconds! Feel free to comment below and tell me why you made that quick decision. 

Love and Blessings, 

Molly 

Health, Marriage, Motherhood

Self Care

From the moment you become a parent, your whole world changes. It isn’t all about you anymore. The focus is off you and now on your child. My son is almost a year old and it feels as if my life solely revolves around him. Sometimes to the point where I have neglected my physical, mental and emotional state. Over the past few months I have had to relearn how to take care of myself. For me, this means I have had to ask for help. If you know me personally, you understand how prideful I can be when it comes to asking for help. I have always wanted to appear as an independent young woman, who could carry her own weight in any situation. It wasn’t until I had Aidan and only getting a few hours of sleep, while also trying to keep up the household that I realized I couldn’t do it all on my own. I learned to lean more on my husband and stop trying to carry all the weight on my shoulders. This summer has presented many opportunities for me to rest and heal my mental and emotional state, while working on strengthening my physical state. On days Nathan is home with us, I am able to rely on him to watch Aidan while I take a nap. We came up with a system at the beginning of the summer where Nathan sleeps in, while I am up early with our son. I then get to take a long nap in the afternoon. These naps have allowed me to catch a few more hours of rest. When I am physically rested, my mental and emotional state is a lot healthier. I have also focused on taking time each day to get exercise. Through exercise I am producing endorphins which emotionally makes me happier, while also making me healthier. Besides getting more rest and exercise, I have learned how beneficial it is to take time for just myself. As adults, I feel it is very important for us to take a few hours a week just for ourselves. Whether it is spending an hour reading or drawing each day, or just walking through Walmart, having “Molly Time,” is something I need so I can mentally prepare for my roles as a mommy and wife. By neglecting my mental and emotional health, I know I cannot fulfill these roles to the best of my ability. I have had to learn over the past year the importance of self care and self love. As parents we need to take a step back from all the chaos of our lives and focus on ourselves once in a while. This does not mean we neglect our children or our responsibilities, but by doing so, we will be much happier and healthier human beings. By learning to love ourselves and take care of our mental, emotional and physical health, we can better care for our children and spouse! Remember your happiness and health is necessary and should always be a priority. 

Love and blessings, 

Molly