Aidan, Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood

In the Blink of an Eye

How is it possible that my baby boy is a one year old already? It has been 365 days of cuddles, kisses, watching him grow and falling more in love with him each day. This little boy has stolen my heart and I could not have asked God for a better blessing. This past year has been a year of many firsts. Nathan and I have watched our son learn to crawl, walk and talk. I don’t think I ever realized what true love really was, until I held my baby boy in my arms for the first time. Every day I watch our son grow into this wonderful little man. He has such an amazing personality. Aidan loves to laugh and make others giggle. He is a very social young man and is very inquisitive. Each day, I learn something new about my baby boy. In honor of his first birthday, I thought I would share 12 things I have learned about Aidan over the past year!

1) Since he was a newborn I have learned that my son loves to eat. More than most children. He will eat anything you put in front of him, except watermelon. He will spit it out and hand it back to you. This child is not picky at all and he loves loves loves chicken!

2) Aidan loves to share his toys and pacifier. He will even try and put his pacifier in my mouth. He has made it into a game of putting the outside part in my mouth and yanking it back out and sticking it in his. 

3) If he starts getting fussy, all we have to do is play videos of the chipmunks singing of sing the theme song to Remember the Titans. Usually, this will calm him down. It has been a life saver in the car on long road trips!

4) Aidan loves to close doors. To the point of shutting mommy in the closet when she is hanging up clothes. 

5) He is obsessed with bathrooms. Anytime the bathroom door is open, he will make his way in there in hopes that it is bath time. Also, he has discovered that the toilet seat can be lifted. Apparently hairbrushes and pacifiers are meant to be stored in the toilet. 

6) I have never seen someone get so excited as Aidan does, when you ask him if he wants to call GiGi and Papa or MiMi and Grandpa. He sure does love all of his grandparents. 

7) Our son is so inquisitive and very smart. (I know all parents say this) He loves to figure out how things works and has met all his milestones months ahead of time. 

8) Aidan loves to be scared. He laughs hysterically anytime you sneak up on him and yell boo. He also loves to play peekaboo, especially with our dog Storm. 

9) While he does not watch a lot of Tv, he enjoys the shows Arthur and The Cat and the Hat. He usually will watch the theme song and then go off and start playing with his toys. 

10) Taking after mommy, Aidan is extremely ticklish. His most ticklish spots are when you kiss his neck, tickle his ribs and toes.

11) Aidan loves to be outside. He could spend all day playing in the grass and dirt. He gets upset when it is time to go inside, unless it is bathtime! 

12) Aidan Quinn is a complete daddy’s boy! Everything daddy does is extremely funny. If mommy tries to do it, we give her an unamused look. Daddy is usually the one who can get him back to sleep in the middle of the night. The bond between these two is so strong and absolutely beautiful! 

While this past year has flown by, it has been the greatest year of my life. Nathan and I were given such a sweet and loving little boy. Watching him grow physically, socially and emotionally this past year has been such a blessing. I pray that time slows down and my baby boy stops growing up so fast. While I know that isn’t possible, I plan on cherishing this past year and all the years to come. I cannot wait to see who my baby boy grows up to be! This past weekend we celebrated our sweet boy with all those who have made an impact on him. We had such a blast watching him open presents and eat cake. Nathan and I want to thank our families for all the support and advice they have given to us over this past year as we learned the ropes of parenthood.

 Most importantly, thank you for loving this little man and always being there for him!


Happy First Birthday Aidan Quinn!!! Mommy and daddy love you to the moon and back!

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Felicity Marie, Hope Mommy, Loss, Motherhood

Quick Decision

Imagine, your house is on fire. Your family and pets are safe and you have 30 seconds to grab one item and bring it with you to safety. What would it be? For some of you it might be a photo album, a wedding ring or if you are a teenager, your cell phone. The one item I would grab is my Felicity memory box. This box was given to Nathan and I the night we lost our daughter. Our nurses at Mercy hospital put together a box full of various items to remember our daughter. Each item allows us to cherish our memory of her. One item is a little booklet they made with pictures of her feet and hands within it. Another nurse crocheted a little pink hat and wrap for her. When I found out I was pregnant with Felicity, I began a journal for her to read when she was older. That journal along with her urn are nestled inside. As Nathan and I continue to cherish our daughter’s memory, when we see something that reminds us of her, we place it in inside her memory box. Out of everything I own, I would save my Felicity box in a heartbeat. I realize that I don’t need these objects to remember her, but each one has such special meaning to Nathan and I. When our son is older, I want to open this box and share these memories with him. I want Aidan to cherish his older sister’s memory as well. These little objects remind me of how lucky I am to be her mom and the chance I was given to carry her for as long as I did. As emotional as I get each time I open her box, I love having a little piece of her close by. I know I can always buy a new television or another pair of boots after a fire, but I will never be able to replace the precious items inside that box. So if I had 30 seconds to grab one item, it would be Felicity’s box. 

I would love to hear what you would grab from your house if you had 30 seconds! Feel free to comment below and tell me why you made that quick decision. 

Love and Blessings, 

Molly 

Health, Marriage, Motherhood

Self Care

From the moment you become a parent, your whole world changes. It isn’t all about you anymore. The focus is off you and now on your child. My son is almost a year old and it feels as if my life solely revolves around him. Sometimes to the point where I have neglected my physical, mental and emotional state. Over the past few months I have had to relearn how to take care of myself. For me, this means I have had to ask for help. If you know me personally, you understand how prideful I can be when it comes to asking for help. I have always wanted to appear as an independent young woman, who could carry her own weight in any situation. It wasn’t until I had Aidan and only getting a few hours of sleep, while also trying to keep up the household that I realized I couldn’t do it all on my own. I learned to lean more on my husband and stop trying to carry all the weight on my shoulders. This summer has presented many opportunities for me to rest and heal my mental and emotional state, while working on strengthening my physical state. On days Nathan is home with us, I am able to rely on him to watch Aidan while I take a nap. We came up with a system at the beginning of the summer where Nathan sleeps in, while I am up early with our son. I then get to take a long nap in the afternoon. These naps have allowed me to catch a few more hours of rest. When I am physically rested, my mental and emotional state is a lot healthier. I have also focused on taking time each day to get exercise. Through exercise I am producing endorphins which emotionally makes me happier, while also making me healthier. Besides getting more rest and exercise, I have learned how beneficial it is to take time for just myself. As adults, I feel it is very important for us to take a few hours a week just for ourselves. Whether it is spending an hour reading or drawing each day, or just walking through Walmart, having “Molly Time,” is something I need so I can mentally prepare for my roles as a mommy and wife. By neglecting my mental and emotional health, I know I cannot fulfill these roles to the best of my ability. I have had to learn over the past year the importance of self care and self love. As parents we need to take a step back from all the chaos of our lives and focus on ourselves once in a while. This does not mean we neglect our children or our responsibilities, but by doing so, we will be much happier and healthier human beings. By learning to love ourselves and take care of our mental, emotional and physical health, we can better care for our children and spouse! Remember your happiness and health is necessary and should always be a priority. 

Love and blessings, 

Molly

Christianity, Health, Motherhood

Loving Oneself

I always thought that as I grew older, I would become more comfortable in the body God designed for me. This isn’t always the case. The dreaded concerns of teenage acne and greasy hair, have been traded in for post pregnancy belly and stretch marks. Lately, I have been so unkind to myself. I look in the mirror and instead of seeing the healthy body I was given, I automatically see my flaws. It doesn’t help that as a woman, it feels as if there are societal expectations of what we should look like. These expectations consist of being a certain size and having flawless skin. Women who have had children, are judged if they have not shed the baby weight almost instantly. Television and social media shows us the actors and athletes who “bounce back” a month after giving birth.  Not all of us can afford personal trainers and nutritionists like BeyoncĂ© and other celebrities. I am almost 11 months post partum and I am still trying to lose some of the extra weight I put on while pregnant with my son. The fact is, as women we are too critical of ourselves. Instead of focusing on our flaws, we need to praise the fact we carried a human being for nine months. When looking in the mirror, instead of pointing out what we wish we could change, we need to celebrate the parts of us we love. God created each one of us specifically. He took his time designing all of his children and “so God created mankind in his own image.” Genesis 1:27. I pray one day humankind can be less critical of themselves, me included. It will take one day at a time to accept ourselves as we are. I will do my best to not judge my body for the changes I cannot always control, but for the miraculous abilities I have been given. Instead of idolizing a perfect image in my mind of what I wish I looked like, I will instead focus on maintaining a healthy mind, body and soul, while embracing my new curves and marks!


I want to dedicate this post to my husband, who reminded me that every curve and mark on my body is unique. I am like my own little snowflake. No one will ever look like me! 

Sending love from one snowflake to another, 

Molly

Husband, Marriage

Work in Progress

It seems like just yesterday my dad was walking me down the aisle towards my future husband. In August, Nathan and I will celebrate four years of marriage. The past four years have been filled with laughter and loss but most importantly, growth. Like all marriages, ours is far from perfect. 

Many times when a couple discusses their relationship, they leave out all the trials they have faced. They want so badly for others to see an idealistic marriage, because that is what is expected in this society. Let me tell you, marriage is far from perfect. Not only are you learning to share a space with someone who has different habits, you are combining two different upbringings. 

While Nathan and I were both raised with parents who shared similar values and morals, our family dynamics were completely different. Expectations in work ethic, how money was spent and where we lived are the biggest differences in how we were raised. These differences have caused disagreements in the past. Nathan and I have had to find a way to bring both dynamics together and form one that works for our little family. This hasn’t always been easy. 

We have also had to deal with outside forces who have tried to tear our marriage apart. People who are so unhappy themselves, they will use manipulation to make others around them the same way. This was a strain on our marriage, until we finally realized for our relationship to work, we had to put God first and then one another. Nathan and I have learned recently, we need to surround ourselves with others who boost our marriage, rather than try to bring it down. 

We have also had to learn how to communicate better with one another. This is not always an easy feat. As someone who suffers from depression and anxiety, I know I am not the easiest person to live with. I have mood swings and I struggle to find the positive in life. Nathan has found ways to bring me out of these moods, but has learned to give me space when I need it. I have had to learn how to express my feelings without yelling, and not get easily offended by how Nathan responds. 

Though our marriage has had its struggles, we have had so many wonderful moments over the past four years. A few of my favorites include: Nathan and I buying our first house, welcoming our sweet son Aidan into this world, and sharing in new hobbies together. Nathan makes me laugh every single day, he is so loving and gentle to our son and he is the hardest working man I have ever met. When God placed Nathan into my life, he presented me with a blessing that keeps on giving. I cannot imagine my world without this funny, generous, and sometimes annoying man. I thank you for these years together and I look forward to many more. 

In our marriage Nathan, I vow:

To look for the positive in life. 

To fix the sheets before you get into bed. 

To be a better communicator in our marriage. 

To learn new imitations. I know you are sick of the only two I can do. 

To not get annoyed over the simplest things. 

To make sure our freezer is always stocked with corn dogs and tater tots. 

To be a gentle and compassionate mother to our children. 

To always be honest with you, even if it isn’t the answer you want. 

To not eat your candy when you aren’t looking. (Try not promise)

To make you laugh everyday for the rest of your life. 

And Finally…

To work and fight for our marriage everyday for the rest of our lives. 

I know our marriage as all marriages, is a work in progress. I look forward to strengthening our bond and growing as a couple. I love you Nathan James!