Aidan, Motherhood, Fatherhood, Parenting

Toddlerhood

If I thought life had prepared me for raising a toddler, I was sorely mistaken. The bullying I faced in middle school, is nothing compared to the 18 month old bully who lives in my house. The sweet and smiling baby I used to rock to sleep has morphed into a tiny dictator. When he isn’t screaming to get his point across, he is throwing himself on the floor and flailing as if swarmed by bees. Aidan has taken up the bad habits of biting and head butting when he is mad. When you correct him and let him know his behavior is not appropriate, he laughs in your face. As a mom, I feel as if I am failing about 95% of the time. I’m aware this stage in Aidan’s development is perfectly normal, but I have so much self doubt whether or not my parenting is effective or not. I do not want to raise a child who thinks screaming and biting is the way to get what he wants. Nathan and I realize Aidan is still very young and that changes in his behavior will come with time, especially as he learns to communicate better. Each one of us is still learning how to handle situations, whether we are 18 months old or 27 years old. I am doing my best to remain patient and calm as I teach our child how to correctly respond to his emotions. Easier said than done, right? I think I would rather wrestle an alligator with my hands tied behind my back, than handle my son’s tantrums most days. Now to say my child misbehaves 24/7 would be a falsehood. He has good days and bad days. Most of the time he is a playful and loving child who wants to curl up in your lap to read or dance with you to the radio. Aidan is also very affectionate. He loves to give kisses and hugs, especially when he knows he has done wrong. Aidan participates in our daily prayers and loves to help with chores. He is learning at an alarming rate and as he grows his behavior will continue to improve. This season of challenges will pass. I just have to remember to be patient with him, as well as myself. Nathan and I are still trying to figure out this parenting thing. By the time Finley gets to this stage, hopefully we have some tricks up our sleeve. To all the parents struggling at any stage in your child’s life, remember it is all trial and error. As long as you are a part of their life and are making an effort to teach them right from wrong, you are not a failure. Sometimes we just need a reminder that we are doing a good job as a parent. I know I do!

Love and blessings,

Molly

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Aidan, Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood, Parenting, Pregnancy

Changes

Wow, it has been a few months since I have been able to sit down and write a post. These past few months have been extremely busy. Ever since my son learned to walk, he has been getting into everything. (Just today, he figured out how to take the water filter out of the fridge. I didn’t even know where the filter was located!) These days, my life consists of breaking up fights between Aidan and the dog, rescuing my Tupperware from the trash can and kissing boo boos from random accidents. To say my life has changed these last 17 months is an understatement. This little fella keeps me on the tips of my toes at all times.

Aidan has changed so much in the last few months. He loves to talk, even if you don’t understand half of what he is saying. Aidan loves to play, explore and learn. We read about 15 books a day! (Sometimes the same book is read 4-5 times). He also loves to be involved in whatever mommy and daddy are doing. Whether it is emptying the dishwasher, building a fire or sweeping the floor, Aidan is always there to lend a helping hand. Though it makes the work go a lot slower and things have to be redone most of the time, it pleases me to see him wanting to help and be a part of our daily activities. As he continues to grow, Aidan’s personality has truly blossomed. Rarely does my child have a frown on his face, though he does have his mommy’s temper.

He is always finding new ways to make mommy and daddy laugh. We have had to watch ourselves lately, because he is mimicking everything we do. The other night, Nathan was being ornery while I cooked dinner and smacked my butt. Not two seconds later, Aidan comes up and does what his father just did. Nathan and I couldn’t stop laughing. We absolutely adore this little boy and are enjoying all the changes that come with him growing up. Aidan is about to embark on one of the biggest changes of all, brotherhood. In just a few months, our lives will be even crazier. The Wilkerson family will be welcoming another baby boy into our lives.

Nathan and I are so excited for Aidan to be a big brother. He has already embraced the role, by giving my belly kisses and rubbing it when he sits with me. I’m looking forward to my two boys growing up together and hopefully becoming the best of friends. I feel so blessed that God has placed me in the role of mommy. I cannot wait to see what else he has in store for us in the months to come. I hope you all are enjoying the New Year and the changes that come with it!

Love and blessings,

Molly

Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood, Parenting

You Know You’re a Parent of Littles When…

1) Going to the restroom is a family affair. 

2) You change outfits just as many times as your child does. Especially when you are used as a napkin. 

3) Lullabies are constantly stuck in your head. In fact, you find yourself humming them when you are alone. 

4) Your child eats better than you do. Did they share that four course meal you prepared??? NOPE!

5) You go out shopping for an outfit for yourself and end up buying three new outfits for your child instead. 

6) Your child is better dressed than you are. (See #5)

7) Your child’s name and the dog’s name is interchangeable. 

8) You sing along to the theme songs of every kid’s show, even when the show is not on. 

9) Your reflexes have improved. No child of yours is getting hurt on your watch!

10) Naptime is your favorite part of the day, because it means you can sneak in a snooze or eat the last brownie without anyone seeing. 

11) You use your child as an excuse to get out of going places. “I think Aidan is coming down with a stomach bug.” When really you just want to be in bed by 8 PM. 

12) Trying to wipe your child’s snotty nose is harder than your freshman year of college. 

13) You don’t ever get to finish your own snack or meal. Heck you maybe get three bites of you are lucky. 

14) It has become a daily chore to check the trash can for missing toys and household items. 

Finally…

15) It takes you two months to write a blog post. Who has time for hobbies??? I sure don’t!

Hope you enjoyed! My child is currently demanding more marshmallows. He is such a food dictator!

Love, 

Molly

Health, Mental Illness

One Day at a Time

A few weeks ago, I was lucky enough to spend the day with one of my best friends. We spent the day shopping and gossiping. Over lunch we sat and discussed everything from marriage to motherhood. In between stories of our children, a more serious topic came up. That topic was depression, more specifically how those without depression struggle to understand those who suffer from it. I have suffered from depression and anxiety since I was eleven years old. As a child, I hid my mental state from those outside my family. There is such a negative stigma when it comes to those suffering from depression or an anxiety disorder. Most people assume that those who are sick can not live a normal life and are weak. This is not the case. Explaining depression to those uninformed can be so frustrating. Over the last fifteen years, I have heard comments such as, “depression isn’t real, it’s just you trying to get attention.” Or “if you want to be happy you just need to think happy thoughts, since it is all in the mind.” These statements are false. To explain depression to someone who does not have it, I want you to imagine you are swimming in the ocean and a huge wave comes out of nowhere and pushes you down to the bottom of the ocean. You are so disoriented that when you try to swim to the top, you are actually swimming farther down. It takes a lot of work on your part and help from others, to finally get back to shore. This is how depression works. For me, depression consists of anxiety, sadness, loneliness and exhaustion. While these symptoms do not completely go away for me, I find relief through certain lifestyle choices. These choices include: getting exercise and spending time outside each day, talking about my emotions with someone I trust and taking medicine for depression and anxiety. I have also learned overtime, that my depression is worse during stressful situations, such as my parents divorce and the loss of my daughter. While it is impossible to avoid situations such as these, I found finding support from family and friends was the best way to ease me out of my depressive episodes. Like everyone, I have my good days and I have my bad days. On my bad days, I might just be a little more withdrawn and emotional than what is normal for those without depression. Though it is not easy living with a mental disease, and I never know when a wave of sadness is going to hit, I try to take it one day at a time. I am blessed to have an amazing husband who is there for me through my good days and bad days. My recommendation is for anyone who suffers from depression to find a support system who will lift you up on those bad days, and those who don’t, to become that support system that others so desperately need!

Love and blessings, 

Molly

Aidan, Creating Memories, Family, Motherhood

In the Blink of an Eye

How is it possible that my baby boy is a one year old already? It has been 365 days of cuddles, kisses, watching him grow and falling more in love with him each day. This little boy has stolen my heart and I could not have asked God for a better blessing. This past year has been a year of many firsts. Nathan and I have watched our son learn to crawl, walk and talk. I don’t think I ever realized what true love really was, until I held my baby boy in my arms for the first time. Every day I watch our son grow into this wonderful little man. He has such an amazing personality. Aidan loves to laugh and make others giggle. He is a very social young man and is very inquisitive. Each day, I learn something new about my baby boy. In honor of his first birthday, I thought I would share 12 things I have learned about Aidan over the past year!

1) Since he was a newborn I have learned that my son loves to eat. More than most children. He will eat anything you put in front of him, except watermelon. He will spit it out and hand it back to you. This child is not picky at all and he loves loves loves chicken!

2) Aidan loves to share his toys and pacifier. He will even try and put his pacifier in my mouth. He has made it into a game of putting the outside part in my mouth and yanking it back out and sticking it in his. 

3) If he starts getting fussy, all we have to do is play videos of the chipmunks singing of sing the theme song to Remember the Titans. Usually, this will calm him down. It has been a life saver in the car on long road trips!

4) Aidan loves to close doors. To the point of shutting mommy in the closet when she is hanging up clothes. 

5) He is obsessed with bathrooms. Anytime the bathroom door is open, he will make his way in there in hopes that it is bath time. Also, he has discovered that the toilet seat can be lifted. Apparently hairbrushes and pacifiers are meant to be stored in the toilet. 

6) I have never seen someone get so excited as Aidan does, when you ask him if he wants to call GiGi and Papa or MiMi and Grandpa. He sure does love all of his grandparents. 

7) Our son is so inquisitive and very smart. (I know all parents say this) He loves to figure out how things works and has met all his milestones months ahead of time. 

8) Aidan loves to be scared. He laughs hysterically anytime you sneak up on him and yell boo. He also loves to play peekaboo, especially with our dog Storm. 

9) While he does not watch a lot of Tv, he enjoys the shows Arthur and The Cat and the Hat. He usually will watch the theme song and then go off and start playing with his toys. 

10) Taking after mommy, Aidan is extremely ticklish. His most ticklish spots are when you kiss his neck, tickle his ribs and toes.

11) Aidan loves to be outside. He could spend all day playing in the grass and dirt. He gets upset when it is time to go inside, unless it is bathtime! 

12) Aidan Quinn is a complete daddy’s boy! Everything daddy does is extremely funny. If mommy tries to do it, we give her an unamused look. Daddy is usually the one who can get him back to sleep in the middle of the night. The bond between these two is so strong and absolutely beautiful! 

While this past year has flown by, it has been the greatest year of my life. Nathan and I were given such a sweet and loving little boy. Watching him grow physically, socially and emotionally this past year has been such a blessing. I pray that time slows down and my baby boy stops growing up so fast. While I know that isn’t possible, I plan on cherishing this past year and all the years to come. I cannot wait to see who my baby boy grows up to be! This past weekend we celebrated our sweet boy with all those who have made an impact on him. We had such a blast watching him open presents and eat cake. Nathan and I want to thank our families for all the support and advice they have given to us over this past year as we learned the ropes of parenthood.

 Most importantly, thank you for loving this little man and always being there for him!


Happy First Birthday Aidan Quinn!!! Mommy and daddy love you to the moon and back!